Posted by: dagmarsands | December 13, 2010

Love believes the best… Reposted by Dagmar Sands

Love believes the best…
.by Louk Damianov on Saturday, December 11, 2010 at 4:07pm – reposted by Dagmar Sands 12/12/10

In the deep and private corridors of your Heart, there is a room, a room called Appreciation. It`s a room where your thoughts go when you encounter positive and encouraging things about that Special Precious person in your life. Every so often, you enjoy visiting this special place in your Heart. On the walls of this room are written kind words and phrases discribing the good attributes of the special one next to you. These may include characteristics like “Honest”, “Intelligent”, or phrases like “Diligent & Romantic person,” “Wonderful cook,” “Beautiful smile,” “Warm eyes,” Gentle touch,” “Precious B, H, L,” etc. They`re things you`ve discovered about your partner next to your Heart that have embedded themselves in your memory. When you think about these things, your appreciation for that Precious One begins to increase even when things are difficulte and seems lost. In fact, the more time you spend meditating on these positive moments/attributes, the more greatful you are toward that special One`s Heart.

I know most of these things in the Appreciation Room were likely written in the initial stages of your relationship. You could summarize them as things you liked and respected about your Loved One. They were True, Honorable and Good and you spent a great deal of time dwelling on them in this room… before you lost the conection with the other Heart. As life keep putting its own expectations on everyone of us we may have found that there are many times this special Room in our Hearts have not been visited as offten as we once did. Of course, that`s because there is another competing Room nearby.

Down another darker corridor of your Heart lies the Depreciation Room, and unfortunately we visit there as well. On its walls are written things that bother, irritate you about that Special One. Of course, they all were placed there out of frustration, hurt feelings, disappointments of unmet expectations. This Room is lined with the weaknesses and failures of your Loved One. Their hurtful words, bad habits, actions of panishment, poor decisions, self centered comunication are written in large letters that cover the walls from one end to the other. Spending time in that Room devalues the Heart of that Special Precious One and leads to emotional injuries, Heart injuries that leads to fall out of LOVE.

Yes, we may say, “The things in the “D” Room are true!” Yes, but so are the things in the “A” Room. Everyone fails and has areas that need personal growth. I know I have faied! Everyone has personal baggage, hurts and unresolved issues. I`m one of them! That is the sad aspect of being Human. We all have sinned. We do have this unfortunate tendency to downplay our own negative attributes while putting our Precious partner`s failures under a magnifying glass. And yes, I have done it as well and yes I`m the biggest siner of all!

After all I have said in writing so far the real issue here is not the “D” Room we do pay a visits. LOVE knows about the “D” Room and does not live in it. Keep running to the “D” Room after every frustrating events in your Precious Relationship it does you no good and surely will drain the joy out of your Heart and we forget the “A” Room.

LOVE choose to believe the best about that Precious One that is in your life says God in 1Corin. 13:7 and gives the benefit of the doubt. It will refuse to fill in the unknowns with all the writing in “D” Room. LOVE makes every effort to deal with them and LOVE does not delight in evil but rejoices with the TRUTH (1Corin. 13:6). LOVE always have to lead our focus and thoughts when comes to how to be there for that Special Precious Person that is part of your Heart when he/she glance in the door of the “D” Room. LOVE is always willing to help when we should ever go in this “D” Room to write in huge letters across the walls “COVERED IN LOVE.” As you willing through LOVE to move toward the “A” Room we choose to learn that many more wonderful character qualities could be written across these walls about that Precious One that is next to you! So many dreams and hopes have yet to be realized and abilties to be discovered like hidden treasures. Of course, it is a CHOICE that starts with a DECISION by you. It is a DECISION that you make, whether they deserve it or not.

Someone have said the following:

NO ONE falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE. No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK… And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE!

I wish you a Beautiful, Happy, and full with God`s Love & Grace CHRISTMAS and NEW YEAR!

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